I've used the windows movie maker to make all the videos at
http://youtube.com/user/thatguyisms. I've also used really high end software (final cut pro) on a brand new mac pro. The problem you are having EJR might come from not having enough computing power including memory and/or processor, not having the right (or up to date) drivers, or to many programs running/ viruses, etc. Try updating everything at windows, google or ebay always helps fix computer problems. If you have an older unit you might be able to finds a s#it load of high end (formerly expensive) memory, accesorries, modems, drives...
Or get your brother to make all your videos. Also check out http:/download.net. I've tried programs through them countless times and bought several because they work, I was able to test drive them, and they are 1000% legit.