I don't know about you guys, but I'm the person who always puts money the jar at the local market to help a family that just lost a mom, a dad, a child... Little Billy has cancer, yes I will donate to help with his medical bills. The difference here, is that this guy is known throughout a larger community, and yes, he was a veteran, which, I personally think, makes his and his family's welfare every free American's responsibility.
We can all argue about whether or not the wars we're (meaning America) fighting are correct, appropriate, just, etc... and about gun control, climate change, tax increases, the list goes on and on. Regardless of your stance, the one thing folks are good about getting together on is mourning. Whether you've lost a spouse, child, grandparent, dog, or Gucci bag, the one thing we all share is an understanding of loss, and maybe it's just lip service, but at least it's service-- another useful word on the cusp of going extinct.
This may just be perspective of the feeble female variety, but I'm sad every time I hear of any one being hurt or killed, especially someone who has "served" this country.
Something to stash in the darkest corner of your brain: Practices of ritual and adornment during burial are thought to have emerged with modern humans, effectively marking the beginning of our "humanity".