Hey Reaver
I would recommend you to buy the best press you can get, like it was mentioned a RCBS rock chucker or a good lyman, also a powder measure will be extremely helpful to reload big batches.
Don't forget the scale, they could be very expensive, I bought a shitty chinese digital scale and works like a charm for 9mm
http://www.dealextreme.com/p/digital-precision-scale-20g-max-0-001g-resolution-10515About the books, I honestly think with only 1 you are ok, all those books will say the same and have the same reloading tables.
Reloading is an art, you'll learn about it doing it, researching a bit more and then practicing it.
In the beginning it sounds like there is a ton of things to learn and do but isn't so much, just take it easy.
About the loads, the best thing is to do what the table says, never trust a load you read around the internet and don't use maximum loads until you know your equipment and know well what you are doing .