You're afraid of facebook, but post on this forum? Believe me, they can view anything on it, even in "private" forums.
Also, you give the fedgov waaaay too much credit, or overstate your own importance to them.
And when we don't speak up, others like us will think they are more alone than they really are.
If I wasn't as open about my lifestyle, I would not have the allies and friends I have now.